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Our dear @iriswrite calls us old today 🤣 And it doesn't bother me AT ALL! Rather, I have long since learned to understand that my body, mind, and spirit are busy with other things “typical of old people,” and that I don't even look back on my previous or past life with longing or frustration, but rather as a stage of life that I had to go through and in which I am convinced that only God had mercy on me and cared for me as “the apple of his eye.” 🙏.
In this journey called life, I was very precocious. My brother, six years older than me, was in the prime of his youth, making mistakes and being rebellious, and he was the model and guide I had for “wanting to be like him when I grew up.” There were many parties at my house; everything was a celebration. So much so that we have a saying that “whoever drinks on Monday drinks all week,” so we had to make sure that on that day we did everything possible to drink alcohol and ensure that the whole week would be like that.
I grew up in that environment of parties, celebrations, gatherings, “older” people, little parental control, and in a city with a thriving nightlife, which I think was the main reason I wanted to “grow up fast” so I could enjoy all of that. Mind you, I'm not saying that there was a lack of values or work, but that's how we are in this part of the country, “everything is a party.” I remember that the only thing I had were older friends, because my body and face gave away my age, since I didn't have the attributes that a girl of 16 or older might have, but I always found a way and was able to enjoy this adult life.
My desire for parties, nightlife, and being fashionable was so strong that it wasn't limited to my area; I would travel to nearby states, all in order to find a party that I could later brag about to my younger friends, who didn't have the **freedom** to attend as many events as I did. I always say that God's hand was present in the form of my friends, as they always looked out for me and, in a way, all of us who visited those places knew each other and knew who my brother was, so I didn't have any major setbacks with fateful experiences or anything to regret, although the danger was always there, it's just that we “made the danger fear us” 🤣.
One of the biggest challenges came when I went to college, because everything got out of control. In a way, I was already older, my body lived up to the demands of stereotypes, and I was “the new girl,” so invitations and parties were a Monday-to-Monday affair. I was torn between two cities, where one day I could wake up in my hometown, at the disco, and then go to the city where I was studying and continue the party for a few more days. God was also present, because he did not allow anything as sacred as my studies to be compromised, and I was always able to maintain my grade point average, according to the university's requirements.
Why did I behave that way? The main reason was because that behavior was permissible and accepted by my circle. Even when my body was showing signs of fatigue and my mind was bored, my friends would still take me out, or if there was a party at my house, it was very difficult to resist, so I ended up joining in and repeating the cycle.
Another reason is a very true saying, “Tell me who you hang out with and I'll tell you who you are.” And certainly, if I had spent my time with athletes or readers, my behavior would have been totally different, because my interests would have been different. But, surrounded by people who went out partying week after week, obviously the only thing I cared about was where we were going this weekend. Finally, I think the context lent itself to everything. It was a time of prosperity, we weren't worried about working or knowing where the money came from, because we had it at our fingertips. On the other hand, the musical BOOM! we were experiencing with so many reggaeton artists (many of whom emerged during my youth), and without exaggeration, the venues that opened every week made it impossible to refuse to live that life, if we had everything at our fingertips.
What did I get out of it? A lot of knee and neck pain 🤣. Many years ago, I started to change my mindset and perspective on what “fun” meant. Likewise, everyone went through that phase and found other interests. Nowadays, I have a lifestyle that is very different from what I used to have. To give you an example, my day ends at 8:00 p.m., and that applies even on December 31, when in the past I would have been up at dawn saying “Happy New Year!” wherever there was a party 🙃.
I don't regret having experienced many things, because that's what youth is for. I can't imagine myself at almost 40, planning “which club are we going to tonight?” 😆. Besides, it's not an old person's way of thinking, but I think I was so careful that I see the dangers that exist today, and I don't see myself going to a place where I would put myself at risk, since I would be more concerned about that than enjoying myself. Today, the concept of enjoying myself and having fun has changed, and I feel comfortable with who I am today and how I behave, so I'm GRATEFUL for the toll that the years have taken on me! AND I LOVE IT😍.
@iriswriter nos invita a unirnos a su iniciativa número 9, Batallas que el tiempo nos ayuda a ganar acá te muestro de qué trata y que puedas hablar de cómo el tiempo ayuda o no a ser lo que somos hoy 😉.
Te invito @cautiva y @rosahermosa a contarnos sobre tu experiencia 💐.
La portada la hice en Canvas, al igual que el separador y el banner.
El traductor que usé fue DeepL.
Hasta un próximo encuentro 🌺.
@iriswriter invites us to join her ninth initiative, Battles that time helps us win. Here I'll show you what it's about so you can talk about how time helps or hinders us in becoming who we are today 😉.
I invite @cautiva and @rosahermosa to tell us about your experience 💐. The photographs are my property. I made the cover in Canvas, as well as the separator and the banner. The translator I used was DeepL. Until next time 🌺.