Fate has that humor, that winks at you while saying ...

Did you think you could pass by? No way, come here, this learning is yours.

To let go is not to fail... in a deep relationship, cutting without trying to repair is inconsistent with the nature of love.

When one wants and the other no longer wants, the relationship feels like carrying a piece of furniture between two... but the other person let go a long time ago. To fail is to stay there, where you are no longer chosen and lose yourself in the attempt.

The body knows it and so does the emotion...why? Well, because it shows in how you talk, how you doubt, how you justify yourself for not accepting that what hurts, is not the breakup... But to stay in a place where you stopped being seen, and you are still there with the full weight on you pretending that "Everything is under control".

When one wants to continue the relationship and the other no longer, the relationship feels like carrying a piece of furniture between two, but the other person already let go of one side of the furniture a long time ago.

You stay because of fear and not because of love because if there is no desire on the other side, yours becomes a burden and that's when "begging for crumbs so as not to feel failure" appears because we don't see the wear and tear of losing ourselves for the fear of losing that "someone". One endures even hot water on the skin when one loves and after love is over there is no human power to restart it it's time to leave there without regard.

It's time to grab the dignity by the chops and follow the path... And that's the end of it... It's over!!!.When the relationship is filled with repeated arguments, long silences, jealousy, tiredness and that feeling of “we don't listen to each other anymore”, the worst thing is to let it continue on automatic.

In my view of things, is infidelity paid for with infidelity? I think no, because that's not justice, it's revenge.

Look, infidelity hurts, yes. But repeating that action to "tie the pain", does not fix anything. The truth is that forgiveness is not mandatory, but if you are going to stay, let it be to rebuild, not to punish the other.

And when this happens we make maromas, we slip away and invent shortcuts... And we ended up landing right where we wanted to look.

Life as a couple when you listen to him, he usually operates with the precision of the old watchmakers "nothing is left over, nothing is missing". The detours that so many of us proudly defend are sometimes just necessary detours to understand the essentials.

You can avoid a conversation, a decision, a feeling, but what corresponds to you has an infinite patience that awaits you, but when it reaches you, it accommodates you. In the same way, I think that every experience does not destroy love. It only makes us more aware of ourselves and how to love ourselves better.

I also think that stopping on time helps, if something can be renegotiated in the relationship because there is still love left, it is to look at each other honestly, understand what is hurting each other and agree on boundaries that take care of both to move from the fight to the dialogue.

Janitze.🌷❣️