LOH280 || Without interference, collective coexistence is better...

Uffff, of course I've been touched by people in my very close environment with abusive behavior @irenenavarroart.

It is not an easy thing to learn to handle this type of abusive behavior and intrusions such as respecting visiting hours, sleep, family weekend, things like that.

How do I handle it? I do it considering what I can afford and what I can't, based in my criterion of values those that are indispensable, desirable, negotiable and non-negotiable.

Sometimes my tolerance for this kind of abusive behavior is zero.. and when it's like that I don't make decisions, because my clarity is clouded with my dark glasses. In addition, we are not the same every day, nor do we see things with the same perspective. So it is valid to feel like this in the face of social pressure.

Now, just as we can't control who we work with, stay in a hotel, run a marathon, or study with, we also don't choose family, and neighbors. The most we can do is to stop at the choice of the institute where to study, the urbanization where we are going to live, the place where we practice, but there is always a degree of tolerance what to cultivate and clear limits to put.

I think that in the case of Venezuela, over time all the assumptions have changed... they are more at home, more contact with neighbors, new neighbors, new limits to define.

Thank God, I have a property in the Venezuelan Andes, and my neighbors are still in contact with me and take care of the house. Which I appreciate, however, they let me know even if the house has bee nests or the girl is not going to clean, too much for my taste. I tolerate them because I know that they are very old in age, they are loved, and they have nothing else to do... Hahahaha.

In my current house, here in Maracaibo, my staircase 🪜, was the people's staircase because it was the only one that had 15 steps and led up to the ceiling of the second floor. And I borrowed it and my husband was upset because they returned it dirty and he is very neat with his things.... To the point, that when I lent it, I gave it to my neighbors with the rag to clean it and they returned it to me clean... I started warning my neighbors in the urbanization that they would clean it and return it to me because it passed from one house to another and I had to track it, of course, everyone had patios where to put it without bothering.

We are not freed from these situations by abusive behaviors, but setting limits is healthy to be calm. Without fear of what they say. We can't be nice all the time. Of course, without being rude, we have to express our dissatisfaction.

Nice day. Janitze.🐝