The worst loneliness is prejudice...

When a relationship demands more from you than it offers, it's not bonding: it's draining.

Look, not everyone who claims to love us is actually with one.

Some people are only with one from our cheerful side,... And when you love yourself or. you fall because of what adverse situation, they leave. Maybe it's not abandonment, it's revelation, and how it hurts, but it also frees us.

There are people who are only with us as long as it suits them, as long as we are cheerful, functional, as long as we do not represent a problem. But when we fall, when we break down, when emotionally we don't give more, they disappear, and we are left like that, hurt and disappointed.

"Does it hurt? Without a doubt, of course it hurts. Because one does not expect to be left at the most vulnerable moment*.

Fundamentally, it is up to us to learn to manage frustration tolerance, and to understand that many times what happens there is not abandonment. It's practically a revelation. From what? Really,... true, those people were never with you. They were with a part of you, with the one that served them.

And when you no longer served them, goodbye, bye, they left.
And although that emotionally can cause us suffering, it is fundamental to see it as a liberation. Because staying with the one who really accompanies you in pain, in chaos, in the shadow, nourishes your life.

I am totally convinced that it is in the fall where the filter is made, where you learn who are with you, and who were only there when life was smiling at you.

It hurts more what they make up about you, than being alone. I confess that loneliness costs me, not only loving, but family, and also the weight of rumors. I don't need to be famous to make up stories. They judge you, criticize you, talk as if your life belonged to them, and that, without a doubt, hurts, because many times you end up carrying a version that is not yours.

Personally,...I have no enemies, but if I had one, I would say to him: I wish it would give you anxiety!, hahahaha,... because it's terrible. So that has to be healed, it has to be solved, because really living with anxiety is not something that is, in any way, positive, especially if we have to deal with loneliness.

And to think that there are people who make fun, and turn their backs on you, because you tell them that you suffer from anxiety.

In my view of things, real love, good affections, positive bonds in our life, do not give up when you fall, on the contrary, they stay, accompany you and support you.

And those are precisely the loves that are taken care of, thanked, that pass through our lives and... if they have to leave, let them leave better than they arrived. I think it's my best way to deal with my loneliness and other people's prejudices. Do you find it difficult to deal with loneliness and other people's judgment that is never missing? I read you in comments

Janitze.🌷