False steps, in quicksand...

I have it clear, love is not possession. Forget about that.

Why? Because a couple that says "love” from possession, controls, watches over, suffocates, nullifies and cuts off all sense of individual freedom.

Look, love is not measured in endurance. It's measured in how you feel when you're with that person.
If he accompanies you, validates you, and understands what's happening to you without minimizing what's happening to you, that's it. Take care of yourself and take care of that relationship.

If it makes you feel exaggerated or intense or emotional every time you express what you feel, but it never listens to you or puts itself in your place, it's not there. It's your turn to look for solutions.

And love, when it is real love, does not seek to dominate, it seeks to share. It doesn't say “you're mine.” He says“ "I'm with you because I want to."

If possession rules in your relationship, you're screwed.There are people who claim to love but little shows it. It's as if they believe that feeling love is enough. They think or feel that loving is a thing of feeling more than of doing.

They are wrong. Love must be shown with deeds, not only with words, and a middle ground must be maintained in both manifestations. One must show love and also express love. Both of those things.

It seems like a lie but when you demonstrate, they only betray you, treat you badly and walk away, that's when you say, how am I going to continue with false steps in quicksand???

Some people believe that love should always be demonstrated with deeds, but they forget the essential thing: there are people who love from silence, from subtle presence, from a care that is not always seen. Not all love needs to be grandiloquent. Sometimes, to love is also to feel deeply, even if it is not said or shown as others expect.

Some people believe that love should always be demonstrated with deeds, but they forget the essential thing: there are people who love from silence, from subtle presence, from a care that is not always seen. Not all love needs to be greatquent. Sometimes, to love is also to feel deeply, even if it is not said or shown as others expect.

They do to you what you allow to happen. Between submission and freedom, the key is your decision.

I am convinced that we deserve happiness and we should look for the relationships that best suit us. I am sure that no relationship is perfect and no relationship will give us "total" happiness, but when we understand that in a relationship there is more crying than laughter, or more fights than caresses, it must end, because it hurts more to stay in the quagmire, at the crossroads of a relationship that is going nowhere.

Why? Because times have changed and it is very important to put impossible relationships aside. They are just useless relationships, which are fought to the point of fainting, just because of that "I don't want to fail in the relationship" today is a "very absurd" position.

Only what we give in silence, devotion and love is what remains in time. More humanity✌️ that's why we came to this world.

Janitze.🌷