Honesty is not always comfortable...

I'm not asking for epic courage, I just choose to work on my self-love, on my self-esteem, the penultimate week of the year 2025.

When your self-esteem is strong you refuse to beg for love or to be with someone without truly feeling a real emotional bond. With good self-esteem you refuse to stay next to someone who mistreats you or who does not correspond to you.

If you feel worthy and valuable, you will look for relationships that nourish and make you grow.
If, on the contrary, you are ready to fail again because you feel insecure and worthless, you will look for relationships that reinforce that idea of yourself, it is a path, not a punishment.

I don't know, try to make it perfect, try to stop procrastinating. There is no need to wait for next year 2026 to work on our best version, the time is "now"...

Whenever I can, I tell my children and my closest loved ones a phrase that many people would do well to digest seriously: "You have to be "ready" to fail. Look, the problem is not failing.

Just do it. Even if it's not perfect. Do it even if they don't applaud you, and keep doing it without fear of failing, even if you feel sorry for yourself.

I've been dealing with that fear since my teenage years...of course, with the years, by the way, closer to the age of 70, I have been trying to overcome it, but I remember when I was very young having missed many opportunities for fear of making mistakes and being the laughing stock of others. It seems silly, this that I comment, but it happens.

The solstice teaches us that nothing can flourish without having first inhabited the darkness. It's time to honor your shadows and the "undiscovered" in your life. Whatever you decide to plant in your mind today will be next spring's sprout.Also over the years I have learned to move forward with self-esteem and emotional security. Without a doubt, that strength is trained.

If we do not learn to calm down, to value ourselves, any word destabilizes us, any rejection destroys us. In the end, it's not about others, it's just about yourself, you have to prioritize yourself and that means that you have to stop doing what you want so as not to make mistakes in the face of fear about what others say. Because we don't lose applause there.

The year is ending and I keep failing, making mistakes and a lot, but still I keep enjoying the road, whoever likes it well, whoever doesn't like it doesn't matter to me, because they are my decisions. We are human, that's why we make so many mistakes.

Honesty is not always comfortable, but it is always liberating for everyone.

So I am sure that with all these efforts something will work and it will be great! And if nothing still works, life itself is teaching us from each experience, learning the lesson that it brings...

Janitze.🌷❣️