The ego, very inflated is the worst enemy of all of us, humans, and destroys all bonds as a couple, with your family, friends, and incidentally, it does it silently...
Problems are solved by talking, not by stopping talking, or by avoiding the other.
Growing up is not optional, it is mandatory to grow up.I do believe that life deserves to be lived with a purpose. And I think that purpose is given to oneself.
When we wander around, without any purpose, we are not living. If we want to live, we must do something with our life. To serve something, to locate in us a sense of mission.
My friend and colleague Dayanna, today she told me that she felt broken, with a huge sadness, because she had to take me away from a friendship that she loved very much, she saw that I rejected her, I closed spaces to her, I told her, a few days ago, that what was happening is that the guy she likes, has an ex-friend, back in her life. She got back with the ex-friend and I think now, even the couple. So I suggested that she cut off any communication with him, since that would hurt him.
If there is any doubt, I am sure that the enemy is not the one who thinks differently from you. The enemy is the one who does not allow you to think or wants to impose his thought by oath, by force, he does the opposite to you. Just like forgiveness, which does not imply forgetting or justifying the harm, but releasing resentment to move forward (to heal wounds in the relationship of couple, family), and other bonds.
I also think that Dayana, my friend and colleague at the University where we work, always attracts the same type of man, it's no coincidence.
The fundamental question is: Are you really open to looking at singles?
Personally, I have always liked single men since I was very young. When I knew they had a partner I didn't pay attention to them because I knew I could be a second choice, I mean "as a second table dish" and I wasn't raised with that kind of courage.
Many women say, "They're just looking for me married." But beyond the marital status, there is something key: the look and attitude. What you choose to see, what you validate and what you allow, "opens or closes doors." Being clear about what we want in a relationship is essential. As I always say, love is just around the corner, it remains then, to know which is the corner...???
Most humans still behave like children I don't talk to you you talk to me, oh no...Do you remember, about that? Haha we all did it when we were kids!...I also think that there are people who talk without saying anything, so silence is the best option.
So when it comes to expressing or living love, never think that it is not necessary or that later it will be possible... To love...!!??. Careful... You never know when the last kiss is.
Something that is sorely needed in these times: The good does not scare. What is scary is not knowing how to receive it.
Nice day...
Janitze 💐
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL
