It is not love, if there is suffering ...

I got married many years ago, when I was very young, but, to be honest, I did it for love... and I did it for the hormones of falling in love at a thousand miles per hour.

I loved my parents so much that I wanted to fulfill the image of the perfect daughter: married, with many children, responsible. I wanted them to be proud of me.

But that marriage lasted less than two years, and that's when I had the first attempt to end my relationship. And when it was over, I understood something very profound: you can't build your life to meet the expectations of others, not even those of your parents.

Back then I was in debt, confused, and all I knew was that I didn't want to live a double life. So I was honest and said, ‘I made a mistake, but I'd rather face the truth than live wearing masks.' It was hard, but liberating."

Since then, I promised myself that if I loved again, I would mean it. I wanted my next story to be born from the heart, not from obligation. I learned that you can meet the right person at the wrong time...and that real love comes when you are at peace with yourself.

I became a mother for the first time at the age of 19, and although many people see it very early, for me it was just in time. I understood that life rewards inner honesty. When I stopped living for others, life gave me my current husband, and together we built a beautiful family. In the end, all I needed was that: to be in harmony with myself."

There are no superficial loves. What there are is superficial people saying that they love you... And needy people believing!

There are those who throw an "I love you" into the wind as if it were a simple courtesy greeting. But the truth is that there are no superficial loves, what there are are empty words and superficial people who play with the feelings of others.

When we really want to build a couple relationship, the real truth is that we have to decide to mess with all the characteristics that implies being with that person and with you, consequently, make your decisions, conscientiously, because love imposes commitment.

Any love that is not based on mutual understanding, mutual acceptance, respect for the other, good treatment, affection, the mutual search for pleasure and frank communication, can be considered a superficial love.

Anyone who gives that kind of love needs emotional help. And who receives it and accepts it as a real and deep love, too.

Janitze 🌹