Just smell, taste, and respond...

The sense of smell, that of each of us, has no diplomacy.

The mind can say: give him another chance, he's a good man, she's a magnificent woman, but don't be so demanding if you decide to accept him into your life. But the nose, lol, does not do calculations, does not check emotional resumes and is not impressed by a good conversation.

We just smells, our exciting or not, human chemistry, and responds.
There are people whose smell gives us closeness, calmness, familiarity. And there are others in front of which the body puts distance before we know how to explain why...?

It's not always about hygiene, or perfume. It's about that deeply personal mixture, something like musk that can attract us or make us feel that our nose has just activated the evacuation protocol, that is, to run out of there.

And this is also part of chemistry, attraction does not live only in what we see, think or admire. It also lives in what the body perceives through all the senses of our body, without asking permission.

Sometimes we want to convince the nose because the man seems perfect on paper, or the woman seems the one, to share your company. But a relationship is not lived on paper: it is lived close. Very very close. I'm talking about leather to body, face to face, even in those days when our smells are dasfiant because of our naughty male and female hormones 😵💫.

After one arrives as an older adult, in search of a companion, one is no longer there, to start peace negotiations between the heart and the nostrils... We have to love how the man or the woman smells... period! ... It is necessary to remember that the chemistry that impacts us when we like someone to have a romance also enters through the nose, they are those olfactory signals in love when we fall in love and that happens at any age, even after 50, 60 years and more. To the good connoisseur, a few words.

The strongest love is not maintained only with passion, it is maintained with constant appreciation and is eaten by the smell of the other. According to the Gottmans, the secret to happy relationships is never to fight, but to create a culture of appreciation and caring.

Couples are two beings in the process of growth and emotional healing, who share life, and beyond love and their material achievements, they need to know themselves, recognize their mistakes, learn from the past and mature.

Say what you value, be grateful for the small and keep seeing the good in yourself.When that culture becomes the natural climate of the relationship, love not only survives... it grows and becomes unbreakable. Are you cultivating that culture in your relationship?

Janitze 🌹