Jealousy is part of a relationship. It is inevitable to assume it as an unappealable fact. And it is also said that jealousy is a sign of love. The truth is that they are not always a sign of love. Let me explain, why?
When the relationship is put in danger, or there are some situations that can threaten the stability of the couple, it is normal that certain jealousy comes, and that they form part of the relationship, without that producing violent, aggressive elements, demonstrations of implacable judgments or infinite insecurity.
When this jealousy already becomes a totally obsessive thing, where persecution, paranoia, anguish, anxiety, are part of the relationship and make it unhappy, then we are talking about processes that already enter the level of emotional disorders or even mental problems, these are of the "life or death" mode, stay away if this is your case, because these are jealousies that lead a person to commit violent acts, to do totally irrational things, to live in an uncivilized way, they are in no way normal jealousy...
If in the name of jealousy, someone is going to come and hurt us, take revenge and try to silence us forever, then we are simply talking about people who are not well emotionally. At the end of the day, it is a screw that is loose, or even several screws... They are crazy, deranged people... O God, deliver us from this.
It is normal for a person who has healed his jealousy, to have a sense of belonging to his partner, a sense of territoriality that in love is always constant. That feeling of “you are mine, I am yours, our love is forever” is part of relationships that are usually stable. But up to there.
When the thing already passes to obsession, and you begin to feel danger, it's time to seek help, without a doubt.
It is essential to understand that perfect relationships do not exist.
There are always conflicts, debates, situations, problems, differences to be resolved. If we want to have a stable relationship we have to commit ourselves, be loyal and, in some way, understand that relationships imply closeness and commitment.
Why? Because to love is to commit. Is that enough to make the relationship work? No. There are never any guarantees in love.
If we want a love forever we have to build it so that it is, and when I talk about building love, one quickly understands why so many people live repeating the same story with different protagonists: divorces that hurt, couples that do not give it, beauty that weighs, loyalties that are confused with habit ... and a brutal pointing.
Definitely, our partner can be the person who helps us the most to get our full potential... or our worst anchor...and from here you don't love, you just demand. Are you jealous or is your partner jealous?🫣
Janitze.🌷
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