Love does not die suddenly ...

Love, it ends and turns off by carelessness...

Undoubtedly, it is essential to understand that many times it is not for lack of love, but for the contract, it is for excess of selfishness.

You stop asking, you stop seeing, you stop being and without realizing it, we punish our partner for the injuries he didn't do to us. Because of old betrayals, old abandonments, pains that we never talked about, and so some problems begin in our relationships.

And one day there's just no one there anymore.

There are many husbands emotionally abandoning their wives and feeling "they" that everything is fine, when for us nothing is fine. This is really happening in both men and women.

Therefore, we must understand that love is commitment and actions that demonstrate that commitment.

Because a couple can have bad moments, but in the same way they can overcome them, knowing each other together and committed in that love.

Fundamentally to understand that love is not always enough if there is no will and action to overcome old wounds. It is up to us to take care of ourselves, before causing unnecessary breakups and losses.

Many people when a relationship ends express phrases like "my love is over" and the reality is that one wears it out, exhausts it, ends it, leaves it to die.

I want to think that this happens because of the disconnection from ourselves, out of fear, for not solving our emotional problems, which often affect the couple's relationship, for confirming ourselves, and staying there, waiting for things to change, as if they will change on their own, and no, it is we who can make that change happen.

A few years ago, I had a complicated experience in love with my husband. Fortunately, the things that were wrong between us, because with the will and decision of change we are looking for possibilities of solution, growth, commitment and maturity.

And we were able to make things right and better. We owe each other that. Looking for the space for our own emotional, affective recovery to recover self-esteem and from there start over.

The most important thing should be to rebuild, to heal and strengthen from the inside many of those relationships even knowing that they have some unresolved problem in their life, as a couple. However, I know many friendly couples who go through life without taking charge, without at least having the responsibility to look for solutions, and repeating the same pattern over and over again.

If one realizes that the couple is distant, the looks are very close between the two, there is silence that screams signals, red flags that should not be ignored, because that means that your partner is turning off, for lack of feelings, bonds that are broken not because of mistakes but because of too many absences for not having empathy with the other. The loves are fading away due to lack of care and the tiredness of not finding answers, makes everything seem more difficult.

Janitze 🌹