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Autonomy makes those who do not know how to love without control uncomfortable.

Many times love is misunderstood from the control and submission, and look, no. I am totally convinced that when we have clarity and self-confidence, we do not lose loves... we filter and we know with whom yes and with whom no.

And what we are left with is a quality company, and no chains to tie or tie us down.

I remember that my father was uncomfortable with me since I was a teenager, because of my way of being so independent and with clear and explicit goals.

Today, I know who I am, and that worth is mine. To understand it and from there to link up with whoever I feel valued, then, there is what suits me. Truly the loves that are truly good for us, set us free. There is no sense of pressure from jealousy. We are and let the other be who he is. And the quest to be a better version moves us both.

It's a two-way process with your partner.

This is the idea of understanding ourselves from there as humans, but not perfect! When we know who we are, we exercise that freedom to be, without harming ourselves or others, we walk through life, without feeling labeled or conditioned.

In today's world, there are men who are afraid of a woman who is an entrepreneur, who knows how to bill for her intelligence, work and effort. Many people prefer submissive women.

All of us, women and men, are always solving those clashes.

To understand that we can be a couple that sustains ourselves from the strengths of both and that is fundamental, so that everyone with their emotional challenges, we learn to see ourselves, without looking for culprits and not demanding from others to "put up with us, bear with us as we are at heart" knowing that we have elements to improve if we seek the necessary help.

I'm working hard to stop being afraid of myself, and to grow up and believe that I have to stay smaller to fit in, with nothing to look like. Whew... once, Jani was told, sometimes you are intense and I replied, I think you are seeing me from the child's place. It was lapidary and straight to the point, my answer.

I have grown from the emotional to get out of the quagmires! And also, I'm sure that whoever told me did it from their fears, wounded child, and not from my strength. Those are your goals, I told him, not my clarity.

In the sensitive couple it is required not only to navigate in this sea of emotions that I describe in this post, but you have to put your feet on the ground, produce, create, have projects together, sometimes there is so much sensitivity, that time goes by, with both immersed in the emotional, but ... without real material achievements.

When you have a good partner, who supports you to realize your dreams, it is love, because he is a person who checks himself internally, admits his weak points and decides to grow up with you, not stay small, immature, that is, child, they are a strong team for life.

Janitze 🤗