On the way back, from fear...

There is nostalgia, fidelity to an absent love...

I am totally convinced that relations are based on clear agreements, and this applies to all our ties... Can't you give exclusivity? Well, if you can't do it, sincerity does make us uncomfortable, but it hurts less than the.little lie that destroys, when you say, "I would never do it" and you lie to yourself because of the broken word. Do you know why? Because betrayal begins long before deception.

Can you say right now, without any doubt, that you are being loved as you really want to be loved?

In my experience, we throw the fuck away, the good loves. Because we do things that make us lose them, and we behave in such a way that it seems that love is very easy to get, and that we can waste all the loves since we always think bueh... Already..."another one will come"!?, and that's not how good bonds are achieved o.a.except the convenient ones.

Until we realize that if something is extremely difficult to find it is a good love, and even more so, a good sexuality.

We very rarely ask ourselves that question. Do we feel loved as we really want to be loved?

So always ask yourself that question, because if you have found a good love, it's a bad idea to lose it, and if they are not loving you as you deserve, then you should realize and get out of there, running, and as soon as possible.

Never forget that...

... There is no temptation when the relationship is healthy.

If you are honest, you recognize problems and have spaces to express yourself in your relationship, we do not need to expose ourselves to situations that put us at risk. I have always thought that "temptation" appears in wounded, insecure or people with weak values, always.we may find someone attractive, or a given situation, but in the end, it is we, with our values who decide how to act.

Welcome to the crisis, which made us evolve... I swear that I don't want to romanticize crises, and maybe we are different in this, but I can assure you that crises often bring positive changes if we go through them listening to our emotions, learn the lessons they bring us and give it a greater meaning.

The problem is always the lack of honesty of the person who promises and does not fulfill. And then it's hard to trust again.

The bonds are destroyed by inconsistencies, to say I am not capable of hurting you, while the wound is being prepared and a double life is silently agreed upon.

Healing the wounds of the past in any relationship such as couples, family, friends, requires a joint effort to recognize the pain, communicate with empathy, take responsibility and practice forgiveness.

I think we deserve more and that's why life pushes you to leave everything that is a little bit. As if you insist on eating the little crumbs that remain on the tablecloth, when a cake is waiting for you all by yourself, at the return of fear...

Nice day.

Janitze.🌷