One nail, don't pull out another nail...

Let's not add more salt to the wound... That hurts and a lot.

It's always good to look at the terrain... before a breakup with the partner, because our heart handles looking "in the rearview mirror" 🫣, and the "new" relationship ends up paying the broken plates of the "old" bills.

And those pending accounts, they measure with yesterday's stick and the "new" finds no place. Because the old wound is still open.

Let's not normalize the fact of quickly looking for a partner to "punish" the one we are leaving in the immediate past, that only ends up harming the one who competes to prove that he is happier and also those who we use as a second course, for this.

Let's close cycles, let's review where we failed, that it's not always one's fault, it's the only way to be really happy again.

In fact, many times we look for shelter to "sleep" on a new piece of land, or to put to bed the pain of what we have experienced, and not, a house to live and be happy, ... Maybe, forever.

There will always be new opportunities and beginnings, but first we must heal, and stop adding more salt 🧂 to the old wound, it's difficult, I know, I went through it years ago, the important thing is to learn the lesson. You have to take the time to look inward and move on.

And what to do if the new beginning is with the same person? I think it is essential to establish agreements and resolve what separated them, to make a clean slate when people choose each other as a couple again.

Of course, you have to give time to time to avoid complications. That time allows us to see clearly where we have come from and where we want to go from the loving bond.

I think the best thing is to heal little by little before getting into another person in another new relationship. Although some people say that attachment heals with attachment and if not it heals literally.

Years ago my husband and I chose each other again as a couple after a separation for a year. Choosing each other again made us feel different, because we decided that there was room to build the relationship, without fear of losing. At that time we had 20 years of marriage out of the 48 years of marriage, which we have today... Our key besides love we decided to build the new, not from the urgency, but taking out all the debris of the past and really wanting to share two stories and a new path.

Loving grief is not a punishment; it is the bridge to return to you. It's okay to cancel the pending, reconcile ourselves with our value and then look someone in the face as a new opportunity to love. To do this, we have to take breaks, time to pick up what was left, strengthen our self-esteem, without having to be in a hurry to fill a void. Loving grief is perhaps the last and definitive translation of love

Janitze.🌷