Our children deserve respect ...

As parents we do not have the infallible formula to raise, but along the way we have to look for the way back.

Being parents is a manual with blank pages that we are filling out day by day with our children from love and from there take actions to be a better version. My husband and I.we are parents and so we have more than 60, 70 years old today, we continue to learn from love even when the grandchildren arrive.

We are the first school of life (dad and mom). You have to sow to reap a good harvest.

It is very fucked up to think that as parents we have the wand to raise our children, no one knows how to be mom or dad, something I am sure that along the way one is learning with the children and the children are teaching us.

Fundamentally, the perfect upbringing does not exist, in fact, many of us who are parents often say I have raised my children with the best possible, and it is true.because we have done it with the best we knew how to do.

I believe that the love of parents is not enough but there is awareness and when that love comes loaded with fear, guilt or unhealed wounds it becomes toxic, even if it is given with hugs.

I am totally convinced that the emotional wound that hurts the most is the one left by the one who loves you..., do you know why I'm saying that? Because it doesn't come loaded with hate it comes with kisses and hugs. And that, as children and teenagers, confuses us emotionally.

The problem is not how we grow up making mistakes, that happens to all of us. The real problem is that we do not recognize it, and that we justify it with phrases like "I gave you everything", "in my time that was normal", "you also make me suffer", and those are not phrases that love is healthy, those phrases what they do is repeat the trauma and the worst of all, is that from there we push, to which somehow, our children also repeat it when parenting knocks on the door and they become parents too.

Fortunately nowadays, there is information to be better parents, but we don't always know how to apply it to build healthier bonds with our children from the inside.

Sometimes when we are parents we understand so many things that our parents did believing that they were doing the best for us at the time, I also think that deciding to heal and continue from love is the best decision as well as becoming the best version as parents, with flaws and virtues. I have acted with my children as I would have liked my mom and dad to be with me.

Parents are not wise.

We just try to reflect in our children the experience we have had. It is not easy, it is perhaps not accurate, what is good is to recognize it and grow our children with them too. What can never be lacking is love, and above all respect. Our children deserve respect in order to get respect from them.

Janitze.🌷