Mature love is recognized by presence, coherence, caring, repairing when necessary and choosing to grow together, without staying in the intention.
It is felt inside and expressed in the way of bonding. It is to live in intimacy in different ways with the couple.
I am one of the people who thinks that when the childhood origin is not integrated, love becomes effort and constant effort wears out and a lot with too much... Why am I saying that? Because love is not begged it is achieved from a present adult I see it in my close relationships, in the many hours a week surrounded by people at my work for example I realize that the adult I am takes the wheel, the direction. The outside man puts the pieces in front of us all the time to see our game going.
About this that I write, I think that we should not be tired of love but of trying to convince that other that we want by our side... Let him choose us!!.
We form a master number, which applies to any relationship, not just as a couple. I mean that two people in a relationship are like 1+1 and one is 11 because between two people who respect each other something new appears. A place where everyone can say “this is who I am” without fear of losing the other. I do not know how they twist, or transform any, to form a two. In other words, 11 is shared power. Ways, times and modes are agreed upon in the daily choice of being. To remain 1 within an us is an act of courage to show oneself without masks and to accept the other without wanting to fold him into a 2.
It's like missing a decisive penalty.
The one who never kicked says“ "I would have put her on the angle." The one who stood in front of the ball, aimed, kicked and missed knows that he put his best.
Making a mistake does not take you out of the team, nor out of the couple's bond, it tells you that you were the one who was encouraged to keep trying and choosing you. Those who have never missed penalties are the ones who are sitting watching: zero misses, zero goals, zero courage, and they are left alone.
It is always healthy to inform every person with whom you interact what is the line that "they should not cross, a line from which you feel disrespected or disrespected".
It is a great opportunity to reprogram health, bonds, options, freedom time. I think that looking at the world of the other commands us, lowers us from the pedestal, allows us to walk side by side, takes us out of the automatic lament and gives us perspective back.
Loyalty, respect, patience, calm, stability and enjoyment are the magic words to reprogram my guardian. To change would be to stop putting the arm. Everyone chooses poison or not.
Janitze 🌹
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL