Being ourselves.
Fear cannot be stronger than the desire to return to you. That's a truth the size of the Chinese wall. But sometimes we forget.
And we forget because we are trying to meet everyone's expectations, except our own. Because they taught us that being yourself is dangerous, that saying what you think is a sin, that showing yourself as you are can bring rejection. And of course, one is filled with fear.
Fear of failing, fear of disappointing, fear of being singled out, of not fitting in, of not being understood.
That's how I see it, the more afraid we are, the further away we are from ourselves. Do you know why? .
Because fear, when you don't work, becomes betrayal. And one cannot live betraying oneself every day. Doing it without fear of making a mistake cancels us out, and turns us off.
To live in fear is to live half-heartedly.
Many people think that the normal thing is to repress oneself, to silence oneself, to become what others want to see. In no way is this like that.
Why? Because the healthy thing is to live in coherence, congruent with yourself and not with others, even if others don't like it, it makes them uncomfortable, and it bothers them.
It takes a bad time to realize who is really always with you.
I am convinced that we did not come to this world to please. You came to be yourself and for that you have to have tools, awareness and structure, this is not achieved with superficial self-help phrases. It is achieved with real emotional labor.
Coming back to you is a journey, a journey is not a one-day itinerary. It is a trip that costs a lot at first there are many downs, but once you take the bus you start to enjoy it.
It is our journey in which we are protagonists.
The change is uncomfortable, especially for those who have never dared. Personal transformation is a mirror that many people would rather break than look at. But I'm not going to shrink down to fit the old version that someone has of my old version.
This is my path with scars, with flights, with shadow, with a lot of fear and with light. And whether it bothers, inconveniences or distance is also part of the process in my trip.
Because growing up is also letting go. Spectators who only applaud if you do what they want to see. Today I am no longer seeking approval, nor am I asking for permission. Today I only recognize myself and that for mines a revolution.
Why? Because when you come back to yourself, life finally starts to make sense and being yourself is the only thing that frees you.
Janitze 🌹
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL