They didn't tell me about it ...

I lived it for many years of my life, I'm talking to you from my own experience. If you really want to be you and free yourself from bonds, you need to read this.

Being yourself is not easy because the first thing people in your environment including family do is point at you.

They criticize you, they correct you, they want to mold you, they fuck up your life every day, well. Do you know why they do it? Because when you decide to be you, many people lose the theater, they can't stand to see you well living without fear of what they will say, for example.

Despite that, it's up to us to continue in that search of who we are and how we really want to star in our life. And yes, that's it, to star because to be oneself is to assume our role, the main role, is not to let ourselves be carried away by others for no reason, without decision and without our own criteria, to then end up unhappy, in secondary roles being second-rate dishes.

We did not come to this world to fit in, we came to expand, to grow from who we are, not from what others expect of us. And when you are the one who chooses, when you respect yourself, you stand firm congruent in your story something changes and not only in you, you achieve change in others, those around you, because seeing someone free is uncomfortable, but also inspires.

Now I am a woman who takes the helm, to a safe land, I breathe and feel freedom, with everything and fear there will always be ways to solve the contingencies of life, without caring about anything that people around me say. The first commitment is to oneself. It's like living in an extreme sport, you really live, and you do it by being human, not perfect. And that it is not perceived as selfishness, because it is not. To be ourselves is also to be our best version. And there is never a lack of empathy.

The question is: why does the freedom of others still hurt us so much? That is to say the free Alberdrio. It is to triumph over our own complexes and fear!.

Freedom does not need justification, only responsibility. It's not about imitating, or agreeing. It's about letting live. And to live you, in your own way. Just stop pretending, it's better to live without hurting ourselves, or hurting others. Finally, when you dare to be yourself, you give the world permission to be free too.

Nowadays I choose myself 1 and 1000 times because I don't know how to pretend, those around me tell me "you are too clear" and honest, sometimes somewhat problematic, I think in response to the years that I tolerate, personal and work things, that generated a lot of bitterness, which made me give up everything that made me feel, sad and out of me, so I chose to trust in my abilities, talent.

They are healthy boundaries and make me close to being myself, it's one day at a time. My point is that my values change as my perception changes, it changes according to my desires and the things I want to change are a moving feast.

Janitze.🌷