Sometimes our mirror shows it...
There is a phrase that I came across that I couldn't pass up: “Always try to deserve what you aspire to.”And I want to talk to you about why? it seems to me a powerful phrase.
There is an attitude towards life that consists of waiting. Waiting for what you think you deserve to come. The job that is due, the relationship that we deserve, the recognition that should come. And sometimes it comes, and sometimes it doesn't. And when it doesn't arrive, something bitter appears: the feeling that life owes us something that it hasn't paid us.
That's not a comfortable place to live.
Why it costs us so much to be genuine, what are we protecting when we adapt, and how to find the version of you that doesn't depend on anyone's approval.
The other position is different.
Not part of the merit as a point of arrival but as a direction, for example... Change the “I deserve this” to “am I being the person who deserves this?”And from there, let's move.
The “always try” is the key, and it is not something that is solved once. It is a question that is sustained over time: does what I am doing, what I am being, live up to what I aspire to?... Deserve!?...
When we live from there, the process transforms us. We arrive at what we are looking for being different from how it all started. And if we didn't get exactly where we wanted, we didn't get there the same way either.
I want to be clear about something, this does not ignore that yes.... there are injustices. We can do everything right and things may not turn out as we expect. That happens. But living installed in the complaint of what we do not receive leaves us still. Trying to deserve what we aspire to, although it does not guarantee the result, it always guarantees growth.
I have a good example, recently history was made, Hamilton won his first race with Ferrari, and he does it after having passed the hardest stage of his career, frustration, suffering and defeats.
After losing his 8th world championship to Verstappen at the last corner Hamilton went through the most difficult moment of his career, his performance began to drop and everything seemed lost. He switched teams to Ferrari, one of the most legendary in motorsport, and the results were still not coming, to the point where he came to think that the problem was him and he was useless, not worthy.
Merit is not a state that is attained. It is a direction in which to walk. However, Hamilton did not give up, he worked on himself, taking advantage of his experience and knowledge as a 7-time world champion, from his previous teams and finally conquers an achievement that has everyone touched.
But the most touching thing is not the victory, but what it represents, not giving up and reuniting with who he is. Today I think this is a useful and inspiring message for many men and women in mental health month.
The pressure for success sometimes leads us to disconnect, but trusting in who we are, in what we have done and can achieve becomes key... And after many turns, life smiles again.
Janitze.🌷❣️
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL