I don't think it's a matter of whether they are boys or girls, every child is different. I have 2 daughters and my eldest left home at 19 because she wanted to be able to do what she wanted and not feel beholden to contributing to a household that wasn't her own. My youngest is still living with us at 22, helps contribute to the household and while she doesn't ask for permission (I don't expect her to) to meet with friends, she always tells me where and who she'll be with. My eldest was so hard to be around before she left home I think my youngest saw that and didn't want to put me through the same stress.

The only thing I can suggest is that you continue to calmly explain why is important to contribute and communicate with those you live with. It may not change things for when she still lives with you, but the lesson is there for if she ever moves out and had to live with someone else. My eldest currently live with a housemate and while she didn't respect us when living with us she does know why it's important to respect those she lives with now. My sister was the eldest too and behaved similarly, so maybe it's common of the eldest child and the younger ones see and learn from it.