There are smiley face helpers everywhere. They are really happy and genuine in their smiles and they do want to help you, but they don't really want to help you specifically. For some it's about their own conscience. They don't want to tell guilty for not giving a hand but their objective is not to actually give you the help you need.
They want to have a sense of fulfilment and be able to say 'I'm the answer giving guy for this person. Even if it's only for a few moment because I'm needed. You are just along for the ride when you receive help from one of these smiley customer service reps, the smiley advisors.
But I've been trapped in the confusion before, the time when you receive correct what seems to be correct advice. You can see that this advice is true or good and well meaning on the surface. But when somebody gives you correct advice that is designed to keep you in a limited way, it's very different than if that same person gave you information that would actually bring out your greatest potential or solve the problem.
You'll feel the difference when you pay attention. There is one form of correct advice that expands on the receiver and the other form closes many potential avenues, but still keeps you looking open.
It's not about the information itself. It's about how the person providing you the information reacts when you choose not to follow their advice. If that person is genuinely supportive, they will not but angry and say to hell with everything but they'll be persistent in being kind to you and stay curious about what it is that you want to do, they will be curious as to why you wouldn't want to take their advice. The smiley face helpers are focused on keeping you limited, they will get cold and be offended at the fact that you rejected their authority over how you should act through your failure to follow their advice.
When you start growing, you threaten the people who want you to stay as you are. Not all evil though, some have an inferiority complex and they depend on your being limited in order to achieve certain objectives or feel successful.
That's the most important point to focus on, not who is on the opposite side of the fight from you, but instead who is benefitting from you staying exactly the same.
