When You Become the Target
Battling with so-called taboo things isn't easy. Firstly, you have to become the target, then your thoughts are considered lethal for others, and lastly, you are left alone. But I won’t stop this battle with a society that says you have to admire even the wrong things and keep a curtain on them, as no one talked about them earlier, so they must remain closed. Let's dive deep into topics that are sensitive yet need to be talked about.
The Silence Around Puberty
Stuff related to puberty is considered taboo in our society. I believe both genders must have knowledge about these things so they can grow in a peaceful environment, not in a curious one where curiosity could lead to awful things. Puberty is something we all face, and now it comes too early, so the best time is to tell your kids about it sooner so they don’t feel embarrassed or ashamed during school life.
A Red Stain and a Lifetime of Shame
Menstruation is something about which not even girls, let alone boys, are guided properly. They ask their friends or search on Google about it, but in all this, they gain a lot of stress. Finding a red spot on a girl's shirt becomes her most hateful memory of school life. She runs toward the washroom to clear the mess with water or tissue but can’t save herself from embarrassment. It’s my message to all parents out there: kindly observe your child’s behavior, and if you notice signs of puberty, let them know about it.
What Every Girl Deserves to Know
For girls, puberty mostly hits between the ages of 9–14 years, where they may notice changes in their breasts; they might become tender, etc. Pubic hair may develop on the face, underarms, and pubic parts. These are indicators of puberty. When these happen, let her know about the menstrual cycle, which is going to start soon. It’s common for all girls, and it’s natural for women to have it. Stay polite while explaining, as hormonal changes are also imbalancing her emotions.
Just like urination, they have to face menstruation. They need to use tampons or sanitary pads for this purpose. It usually doesn’t last longer than a week, but during these days, she has to go through a lot of anxiety due to hormonal imbalance. It’s the time when the body is preparing for pregnancy, so it’s common for all girls. Hygiene must be maintained. To keep herself clean, provide her with everything like deodorant, pads, and enough confidence to face the world.
When Boys Begin to Change
For boys, they will see the development of secondary organs like facial hair, pubic hair, and underarm hair. Their voice also gets deeper when they hit puberty between 9–12 years. They notice changes in their private parts, such as the penis changing in size and experiencing wet dreams. Let them know it’s not in their control and not their fault if it happens. It’s not a sign that they have had sex; it’s just an indication that the body is preparing for it. Politely listen to them about the changes happening in their bodies. Encourage them to maintain hygiene and provide them with proper clothes and undergarments. Give them confidence to go through this period, as it’s not a moment of embarrassment. Also, tell them about puberty in girls so they can be helping hands instead of making fun of them.
Parents, the First Teachers of Puberty
Stay empathetic with your child, as they are going through this experience for the first time. Stay peaceful and maintain good communication with them. Listen to them carefully and provide enough emotional support, as hormonal imbalance also affects their emotions. They need your help, so be prepared for them.
My Experience and the Cost of Silence
This puberty thing causes embarrassment for all of us. Even in my case, I was unaware of it. Having sisters and a mother at home, I was too reluctant to ask about anything. I remained in trauma at my age as I had zero guidance. I hated myself a lot for having wet dreams, feeling ashamed, and considering myself a sinner. I regret not having enough knowledge. I was sent to the shop to buy pads, and the people around me looked at me with sarcastic and awkward eyes. I had no idea what they were for until I Googled it. I supported my sisters, as I was alone in the past too. Even if society considers these topics taboo, I don’t mind it at all. In my next blogs, I will be covering more sensitive topics like this.
