For a couple of years, I have been away from anything related to close friendship, and to be very honest, I haven’t felt any absence or vacuum of friendship. This does not mean that I don’t have people around. I do, but I don’t consider them as close friends with whom I get to talk often about anything at all, especially life. I have neighbours who come around my workspace to chitchat whenever I’m free, and we seem like friends, but that’s only on a casual note because I have limits on the things I say. The people I consider as friends are the ones I share my fair secrets or happenings in life with, without being scared. I used to have that a lot, but now it’s a different story, and I have been alone, and truthfully, I haven’t regretted or felt the absence of close friends, and life has been good like that.
I have someone who always travels. She’s a lady, and I used to think she always went to visit her boyfriend(s), but I got to know that she visits her female friends. I won’t lie, a little jot of envy crawled into my mind because I haven’t had that kind of trip before—just to go and visit a friend and spend weekends or weeks there. Anytime I think of visiting someone, I always end up thinking that I might inconvenience the person; that’s why I don’t even think of traveling anywhere apart from my family house, where I have my own space. But I really do envy people who travel far and near to visit friends, spend time together, and hang around with plenty of fun. Also, I’ve seen people who used to have a lot of friends suddenly stop having friends because of one disheartening happening or the other.
Both sides have their own advantages and disadvantages, and it all boils down to how life plays out for someone. This is why what makes life fun for Mr. Paul might be a turn-off for Mr. B.
For me, life has been better with few or no friends at all. I can’t remember the last time I had a headache from friendship drama, as it happens a lot in situations where there are many people in a friendship group. The most annoying thing is that even in a friendship with just two people involved, dramas still happen, especially when one is always expectant.
I have seen situations where couples find it very hard to get people to be on their list of groomsmen and bridal train, and it baffles me a lot too because, even though I’m not into keeping close friends as it is currently, I’m in a good relationship with a lot of people. When it’s time for me to look for people to be among my groomsmen during my wedding, I’ll have up to 50 guys willing to join. Yeah, that’s how I’ve been living my life — no close friendship thing, but I’m on good terms and in a good relationship with a lot of people that we can consider as friends.
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