I cannot even imagine a scene where I see my dad cry. The only time I ever saw him cry was many years ago when I was still a teenager, and that was because his immediate elder brother passed away, and it was the burial day. Although it happened many years ago, I can still remember the scene vividly and how he was rolling on the graveside like something straight out of a Nollywood movie. He was totally heartbroken. For him to have shed those tears, the pain must have been unbearable for him.
Do you know how hurtful it is to watch a man cry?
Maybe it is just a social construct to see men as stronger vessels than women, and it has also been likened to a taboo for men to cry, whether indoors or publicly. I like it that way. Men should always remain the men we know them to be, men who do not cry.
Do you know how hurtful it is to see men cry? Like I said earlier, I do not think I can stand seeing my dad cry. It will hurt me to my marrow. I think the only situation where a man should cry is at the death of a loved one. This is very understandable because death hurts so badly, and the thought of never seeing a loved one again carries immeasurable pain.
But in situations where the problem is among the challenges men are meant to face on earth, especially financial issues, if a man cries in such a situation, I will see the man as a weakling. Yes, that is what I believe. Recently, I came to the conclusion that what makes a man a man is the ability to tackle the issues of life.
Some days ago, a friend of mine asked what was happening to me because I had been very withdrawn and unsettled. A lady, after I finished telling her everything, was surprised at the heavy loads on my head. Although the burdens have been disturbing, I am still moving, trying to sort out all the problems. Although it is advised that people should always share their problems and seek help, sometimes it gets difficult for men to do this, especially when they know that nothing positive will come out of the sharing. This is why they bear it all and keep pushing.
The last time I saw a man cry was during a sickness episode. The guy was a co-staff, and I was asked to take him to the hospital because he was experiencing severe stomach pain. He was crying because the pain was intense. I endured the scene and tried to calm him down, but when I realized that it was not the pain alone that was making him shed tears, the approach I was using to console him reduced. He was crying because he believed the stomach pain was not ordinary but an attack from the spiritual world. Oh my God!
Thanks for reading.
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