RE: Stop the Blame Game: The Secret to Taking Control of Your Success [ENG-URDU]

From 'devil made me do it' to 'society made me do it', humans have not changed much. It is way easy to say that I am like this because of this and list is in infinite. Why? Of course, the man's urge to blame everyone, everything, just not oneself. The surge in climate change is real and clearly visible; however, no one is willing to play a role in it. There are around eight billion beautiful people in this world, and not one-eighth of it is willing to start the change oneself. But yes, when it comes to play the 'blame game', we all are a champ. It takes a lot of courage to accept one's own mistake, and those who did are the exceptions. Reason? As you said they take the responsibility of their action, their judgement, their profit or loss.

Furthermore, the internet is full of motivational quotes with independent growth, still those are mere words without any such actions. Time has changed a lot, now it is easier to start with a laptop or even with a phone, the freelancing platform has made things easier. But, the courage to start doing and stop blaming, literally everything, is missing or far-gone. As in Pakistan, no one is ready to follow basic traffic rules, but we all have the guts to say 'Ghareeb Mar gaya (oh the poor)'. Indeed, 90 percent of our lives are the by-product of our decisions and not only circumstances.

In the end, a Chinese (or maybe someone else's) proverb goes by, "He who blames others has a long way to go. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived." Just a little change and we: as a nation, as a human, as a living being can achieve hell a lot of things. Let's start today, and be the first change.

Appreciated!

Hey, reading your comment reminded me of one of my stories you might enjoy: Anger and forgiveness!. It's a deep dive into something similar, but through a different personal life story. It is more personal, more touching, and includes some reflections at the end as well.

Do you know what I like most when you comment? It gives me a feeling of belonging. You seem like someone with similar problems, from a similar background, and someone I can relate to. You are someone I won't have to think twice about because I know you understand the central idea of my writing.

You also reminded me of one of my favorite dialogues. You can find it at 2:33 here:

OMG, whenever I hear her say, "I AM ASHAMED OF BEING A PAKISTANI," I feel it every single time; I get goosebumps. She summed up everything you and I wrote about regarding the blame game, or what we should call "PING PONG."

Disclaimer: the video is a promotion of Imran Khan’s political leadership, but once again... he is not worth it. Fifteen years in KPK and nothing changed. There was the Asia Bibi case, the attempts to change the Khatam-e-Nabuwat laws (trying to change the constitution where it says sovereignty belongs to Almighty Allah ~~and Holy Prophet Muhammad PBUH is His last prophet~~; I crossed that out as he tried to remove it), and then, when people protested, he ran literal tanks over them. It is an endless cycle of ping-pong, blame games, and U-turns. I am literally tired of that guy. I am a non-political person when it comes to Pakistani politics, but I make data-driven decisions, and he is just not my type. He is the person who did the most damage in the least amount of time.

Regarding the motivational quotes and rich lifestyle, people are just selling "get rich quick" courses.

About the "Ghareeb Mar gaya" (The poor man died) excuse, I have spoken at least three times about E-challans because people will complain, "The poor man is dying; how can he pay so many fines?" I wear a helmet even when I am just a passenger on a bike. Previously, people thought I was weird; now, they think I am just saving myself from an E-challan, but it’s really just me being me.

Regarding the Chinese proverb, it applies to Hive as well. Most want Hive to change and the price to increase, but very few actually want to invest and power up.