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I have seen many love relationships break because of a lack of finance and I have also heard from many couples in a love relationship talk about how money is necessary for a healthy relationship and truthfully I agree with them.
I agree with them not on the basis of money being the sole factor for their happiness and continued relationship but my agreement stems from the fact that love won't pay the bills.
No couple walks into a supermarket, shops for whatever they want and then when at the check-out counter say ”We are in love, so we don't need money to pay for these items”. I'm sure you can imagine what would follow next vividly.
The fact cannot be changed, neither can it be manipulated into becoming a lie and a lie believed doesn't make it the truth.
When two consenting adults choose to be in a love relationship, they ought to be well aware of the many responsibilities that will arise over time. Wait a minute, even as a single person, you still pay bills. So how or when does being in a relationship change the trajectory of this truth
Love is a choice....Dr Olumide Emmanuel.
Love is more than just a feeling. It is more than a rush of adrenaline whenever we behold our loved one nor is it butterflies in a belly kinda thing. Love is a choice, a commitment to do right by our chosen partner above everyone else.
Hence, I don't buy the idea that love fades simply because bills arise. If your partner ditched you because of a lack of money or because of the struggle in making money, then I submit to you that such a partner never loved you. They're selfish and only think about themselves.
Truly, romance might not last long in the face of piling bills but that is no excuse for one partner to abandon ship. Romance is not love. Love endures especially when both parties are hardworking. Love knows that it is only a matter of time before financial stability returns.
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The worst mistake I have come to notice from some couples is when either the male or female enters into a love relationship with an entitled mentality. Times have changed and now, both males and females are exposed to equal opportunities. This means that both parties can earn income which will be used to offset some bills.
Financial strain doesn't tests a relationship; rather, it exposes the fact that someone wasn't being genuine in the relationship. This is why diligence is a better complement to love than just mere words and fantasy.
Let me be more real now...
As a man, before you open your mouth to ask a woman to be your love partner or wife, have you checked yourself to know if you are able to cater for two mouths?
Have you as a woman checked to know if both of your finances combined can offset certain bills when it showcases itself. Bills like hospital bills, house rent, electricity bills, school fees and more are very important and dare I say non-negotiable.
I think that what is causing a lot of relationships to crumble stem from unrealistic expectations from their partners and also desperation.
I once heard a lady talking to her friend in church. She was so desperate to get married that she wouldn't mind a poor and broke guy proposing marriage to her. This is wrong on all levels because that lady's mind is blurry and only the pile up of bills will wake her up, which would eventually lead to her abandoning ship and finally a break up.
Love is not based on feelings alone. It is a commitment to be upheld by both parties who have agreed to be in a relationship. If ever a relationship should break, it should be for the right reasons like Abuse, cheating or toxicity but never should finances be a factor for a break-up.
Love shouldn't fade away because of bills, that's an aberration.
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