A Father’s Words, A Son’s Mistake

in The Ink Well8 days ago

It happened about five years ago, but the memory is still fresh, like it was yesterday. My dad, a man of great vision, had always told me to be proactive when it came to my education, to stay ahead instead of waiting until the last minute. I always wonder if he says this thing to make me want to do more, or probably because he saw I wasn't doing what he expected of me.

The thing is, I was young and I believed I can get things done on time, I have the brain, the strength, and the determination to focus. Little did I know that, when an elderly person is talking to you, they are doing so because they have done the same thing you are doing, and they know the end result.

After gaining admission to study public administration at the university, my dad called me one evening, just a few weeks before I resumed my studies in the university.

"Ademola! Ademola!!" I could hear his voice coming from the balcony, and immediately I jumped up from my bed while screaming the usual "Sirrrrrrrr, I am coming." I did this so he would know I heard him, and I have responded.

Not responding when your parent calls you is a sign of disrespect, and my dad would only call me ademola when he has advice to give.

I got to the balcony, and I saw him sitting on his chair, while wearing his grey shorts and blue top.

"Sit down," He said to me, and I did with a lot of thought running through my mind.

“Ademola, you’re going to the university soon,” he started, his tone calm but firm. “And I want you to understand something very clearly. In secondary school, teachers may push you, remind you, and even punish you if you don’t study. But in the university, no one will force you. It will be up to you.”

I nodded, staring at him, but my mind was still halfway on the video game I had left in the room.

He leaned back in his chair, his eyes fixed on me. “You have to be proactive. Don’t wait until exams are around the corner before you open your books. Read ahead, prepare yourself. University life can be rough and tough, but you must not let it carry you away.”

“Yes, sir,” I muttered, nodding again, hoping that would be enough to end the lecture.

But he wasn’t done. For nearly an hour, he spoke about discipline, about focus, about how education would shape my future. And all through it, I kept nodding, pretending to drink it all in, though in my head I was just waiting for the moment he would round up so I could return to my game.

Finally, he asked, “Do you have anything you want to say?”

I shook my head quickly. “No, sir.”

“Alright then,” he said, dismissing me with a wave of his hand. “You can go.”

I stood up, relieved, and hurried back inside. Little did I know that everything he had said would come back to me, word for word, in just a few weeks when I stepped into the university.

At the time, there was one particular course I felt was easy. The exam was still two months away, so I told myself I had time. Why stress now? I could always pick it up a week before the paper, and everything would fall into place. That was the plan. Or at least, that was the lie I told myself. I was more focused on the course I believe were more difficult, even though I should have read ahead of the exam. I wanted to do "La cram La Pour" (Cramming what you read word for word)

A few days before the exam, I finally opened the textbook. What I met inside wasn’t the “easy” course I had imagined, but a mountain of complicated grammar, twisted explanations, and page after page that felt impossible to digest. I read, and read, and read again, but nothing seemed to stick. It was like pouring water into a basket; the more I read, the more it became difficult. Everything kept slipping away. Panic set in, but it was already too late to turn back.

Then exam day finally arrived. I walked into the hall, holding my book and hoping the little I had crammed would carry me through. I sat in my seat waiting for the exam papers that came shortly after we were all seated.

The moment I turned the paper over, my heart sank. The questions stared back at me like enemies I had never met before. Hard, strange, and unforgiving.

"Who set these questions?" I could hear someone say from behind me.

"Thank God, these questions are simple," another person to my right said.

At that moment, I realized I was finally facing the music of all my procrastination. I said a short prayer, hoping God would bring the answers to me, but I was all by myself, dancing to the tune I had set.

The End.

Thanks for reading. My name is Fashtioluwa.

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This story just melted my heart as it depicts how a father's words of wisdom are usually understood with time. Your dad, in his grey shorts and blue top, giving you the advice to be proactive was my favorite part. Most of us reject these types of insights till we come across a similar "easy course" situation like yours that got complicated. I found the moment at the exam, where others had it easy but you struggled, very moving and I could relate with it. I appreciate you sharing this advice with us.

Thanks for this amazing comment. Many times, it's not just about school exams; it's also about other aspects of life that we refuse to listen to our parents. Thank God we didn't learn the hard way.

A father always gives the best advice possible!

Unfortunately, we follow them very little!

Pretty fascinating Story!

We have lessons to learn from it!

!BBH

Thanks for the comment
It’s good we follow our parent words when they are advising us to help us

That is why the saying goes "what an elder sees while sitting, you can't see even if you climb an Iroko tree." What your dad said was right. It good to do something ahead of time than waiting for the D-day. Hope you pass the exams?

hehehe, I passed and I was surprised how. Although the course is a simple course that just needed brain power, thank God I read a little, I was able to struggle till I came out at the other side passing.

Thank God.

Parents want the best for us, which is why they warn us about the obstacles of adulthood, but ironically, it is at those moments that we do not pay attention.

Very true. It is always surprising that when our parents warn us about a particular thing and we refuse to listen, it always comes back to bite us.

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Thank youuuuu.

Great story and a hard life lesson being served it happens to us all
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@fashtioluwa have the best day
!ALIVE
!BBH
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😂😂😂I know right? this is what happen when we refuse to listen

Hmmm... 🥺

This is something I can relate to.

Truly, your lecturers may punish you for not reading your books. But no one will force you.

When we make decisions, we have to bear the outcome of them regardless of what they are.

Very true, we need to know that all of our actions have their own consequences

I can not begin to imagine what the few hours you spent in that examination hall felt like. Sorry you hear. Next time make sure you read and understand and not to cram

Mennnn
It was a very long time in the exam hall but I’m glad everything worked out well

Thank God you are a sharp guy

I realized I was finally facing the music of all my procrastination.

Yeah, I understand this very much. Getting over that "hump" and doing what needs to be done, is very satisfying. !BBH

Very very satisfying. When you know you’re in control

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Thank youu

We all at times pay little heed when an elderly person shares information with us. Sometimes we must experience it first hand and this really helps the lesson be absorbed so that the next time we are proactive. Take care.

!ALIVE

Thanks for the comment and word of advice
It meant a lot

Regardless of what anyone tells us, even our parents, direct experience is by far the best teacher. I'm glad that you learned these important life lessons, my friend. 😁🙏💚✨🤙

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I learnt the hard way but I’m glad I survived and I can now teach other young people

Hehe...I feel you on that, so did I in many ways. That's excellent, my friend, and ditto that. 😁🙏💚✨🤙

Thank you 🙏 😇

Of course, you're most welcome. 😁🙏💚✨🤙

What a good story as usual with lots of lessons to be learnt

Thanks dear

You father's words remain me of my father exactly the way my father talks always giving advice, of a truth father advice is a good
one and once you follow their advice you will do well in life.

Very true
No father would want their child to go through trouble

There are many important things we take lightly, and even the advice our loved ones give us, only to realize we were wrong.

Thanks for sharing your experience with us.

Excellent day.

Thanks for reading
Your comment meant a lot

What a great life lesson.
Nice story

!BBH

Thank you