Growing up being fortunate to view two different perspectives is priceless. You were able to navigate toward the family you felt embodied the concept of "finer things" through their value attitude toward life. I love that no one knew your grandfather was wealthy. I'm of the same mindset. No need to advertise your resources. And I instilled that into my children. In today's climate, doing so may attract unwanted attention for those aiming to relieve you of them.
But the most important takeaway was that you got to see both sides and how "finer things" affected each, then choose for yourself early on. Most children don't get that chance. They're instilled with a certain mindset through adulthood. Shedding that mindset is much more difficult.
Even with my collectibles hobby, as a child growing up in a poor neighborhood and household, my mom would collect "things" only to share them with neighbors or anyone who wanted or needed them. All they had to do was ask. She instilled in us the concept of "giving" so that we could uplift others. But the most important lesson she taught us was that acquiring or indulging in "finer things", especially in terms of financial resources, don't necessarily make one happy.
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