Welcome to hiveghana week 118. It is a beautiful thing to be here again and I wish everyone a very happy new month.
For this week I will love to talk about LOVE. The concept - Love may really mean different things to different people. But I want to say that to the ordinary person outside there, live means having a strong affection for something or someone. And in this case we are talking about having a strong affection for someone.
The question here is - Is love actually blind? Do you know the answer to this question? For me I don't think that love is blind. We only say that to shy away from the red signals we see because of love. When you are in love with someone who can hit you at any slightest mistake. Someone who don't really care about your feelings. Someone who trust others outside more than you. And yet you continue with the relationship knowing fully well how it will end at last. Then when you ask that person he or she will say " I was blinded by love. Hahaha 😂. I just laugh when I hear them say things like that.
Apart from Love, what else should I look for in a relationship? Some people don't even ask such question. They just go on and deceive themselves that love is blind. When you are in love, check out for things like:
- Tolerance
- Trust
- Patience
- Endurance
- Forgiveness
- Keeps no record of evil
- No selfishness
- Praise.
All these listed above and more are what we should look for in a relationship that there is love.
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN LOVE?
Of course yes. I am still in love because I married the man that I love so much. But that does not mean that I should ignore red signals in a relationship. I know when to say no and yes. I know when to say that I ma not comfortable with this particular thing. My own love is not stupidity. I know what I want in a relationship and that is what I will ask for. I also consider my partner knowing his rights on the marriage. We try not to insist on what we want, but to strike a balance. I have been there for 25 years now and I know what I am saying. Just middle of August we celebrated our 25th anniversary. This shows that we have been through alot together and still moving on.
In conclusion, I advice people to marry out of love and also shine their eyes when the see red signals even right before getting married. If what I see in a man is what I can't handle tomorrow and is obvious that I can't change him today, then I will quit. No two ways about it. So open your eyes very well before saying - I DO.
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