The fate of every man is in his own hands. No one is responsible for anyone, everyone of us is responsible for everything that we are doing with our lives. The Bible says that we will all appear before the judgement seat of God so that everyone of us will receive the rewards for whatever we have done with our lives. So, it is we ourselves who are accountable for whatever we are doing with our lives. By this it is clear that we are the ones who are responsible for our fate. No one remotes our lives for us. No one controls our destiny for us, we have our fate in our own hands.
God is a good guide. Anyone who allows God to lead his or her life will never make mistakes. So, allowing God to control our fate is something that is good. When we are lead by God, we will end well in life. God does not force any of us against our will. But God has his own ways and plans for us. The plans of God are the good plans. Every other plan that we choose for ourselves cannot be a good option for us. This is why it is better for us to allow God to control our destiny.