God left us with the privilege to make decisions on our own without being compelled or forced. It is called free will. We are able to live our lives the way we please today because God left us with this freewill. But what God truly desires for us to live our lives is by having a relationship with Him and submitting to Him. But he wants it to be something that we do willingly with the whole of our hearts and not being forced to.
This demands that we open our hearts to God and letting Him take over the wheel in our lives. Just like the passage that in Matthew 7:16 that says by their fruits ye shall know them people should look at us and by our way of life be able to tell that indeed we are of God.
We either give in into the control of God or of the devil. Certain traits we see in people that proves that these are not fruits of the Holy Spirit but otherwise are hot temperedness and the likes. Hot temperedness is the opposite of tolerance which happens to be one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit. The way we are to live our lives are in ways that ensures peace reign.
The last thing that we should allow you reign amongst us either in the family of among the brethren in the household of faith is strife. This is one of the ways the enemy gains entrance to carry out his enterprises. In all we do we should endeavor to live in peace with one another.