Beautifully Made — WeAreAliveAndSocial

I have always been someone that has always accepted and appreciated the way I look irrespective of what others think; however, there was a time some set of people almost made me feel intimidated because of how slim I was. The constant comments about my slim build started to take a toll on my confidence. I remember meeting different people on different occasions telling me, You need to take supplements to gain weight. Even though some of them were just concerned for me, beneath those constant words lay a subtle message that kept ringing in my head: you are not enough the way you are. The body shaming continued, and it took many forms.

There was a time someone saw my picture on Facebook and asked if I was sick. I once dated a guy who told me he wouldn't marry me because he wasn't sure I was going to be able to carry a baby, as if my body were incapable of performing its natural functions. The body shaming was too much for me to bear; there were times I would wonder if there was something fundamentally wrong with being slim because this set of people made it look like being slim was a sin or a crime. Probably at that time, maybe I would have attempted to take those supplements, but because of how I distaste anything that looks like medicine, I didn't give in to them.

I can't remember when, how, or why; I just remembered that something shifted in me. I started having this consciousness of who I am. I realized that people's opinions about me didn't really matter, neither did it define my worth, and that I was beautifully and wonderfully made; this new mindset became a turning point for me.

As I began to accept and love myself, I started noticing significant changes within me. I stopped caring what others think of me and started focusing on me and self-worth. I came to a realization that regardless of shape or size, my body is strong and capable.

One thing I have come to realize about some people is that they will always body shame people regardless of how the person looks. After I became a mom, I added more weight, and there are this set of people that say they prefer my slim body, but I have learned to ignore the noise and focus on what truly matters—my own happiness and well-being.

This is me responding to the prompt posted by @galenkp, you can check it Here

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Just be who you are and love yourself.

I’d like to share my perspective on this matter. I’ve noticed that people go to great lengths to protect their material possessions—using alarms, security cameras, fences, and locks to ensure no one can easily access their property. Yet, when it comes to the spiritual—self-esteem, self-concept, or how we view ourselves, which is far more important—many tend to leave it unguarded. Anyone can come along, offer an opinion, and that alone can be enough to ruin a day when we initially felt great and focused on our dreams.

This happens because we often value others’ opinions more than our own, more than our self-love. We frequently fail to protect our emotional well-being with the same care as our material possessions. Life is an opportunity to be happy and enjoy it to the fullest, because decline, illness, and the end will come. This is our life, and it’s our duty to believe in ourselves.

Today, I was reflecting on this while writing a post about the great Phil Collins—I invite you to read it. A pleasure to share these thoughts with you. Warm regards.

This is perfectly said. Thank you for sharing this 😊

Yes they will never keep quiet but we must do all it takes to feel comfortable in our own skin or body.

Absolutely, people will always talk

Just love yourself because people will definitely talk

Please just continue shutting your ears to the opinions of people. This is a fact of life that people will surely talk no matter what.

You are beautiful in your own way. God never makes mistakes 😁

Thank you my sister 😊

Please just continue shutting your ears to the opinions of people. This is a fact of life that people will surely talk no matter what.

You are beautiful in your own way. God never makes mistakes 😁

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Social etiquette—too thin, too fat, too tall, too short, skin color—as if that were what really matters. People are always criticizing, and that criticism can affect us; everything will be dictated by how good we feel about ourselves. I went through what you express here, and at first, I let myself be intimidated, allowing outside comments to affect me, until my glass overflowed, and I'll share what's next in my post. Blessings.

People should really mind their business and allow others be. Thank you for sharing this 😊