RE: Out of it. — WeAreAliveAndSocial

Recently, I am studying on how our environment affects our habit. I know, many people probably talk about this already but picture this, sometimes some of us can't control the behavior due to our surrounding & the only way we can control it is when we're truly alone or being in places where people are working towards the same thing we do.

Another thing is that the idea of "tiny stressors and reducing friction" have also float around my brain. So, basically whenever we want to change our habit, it's not about how we can "control" our surrounding but rather how we could minimize the friction to do the things we wanted to do.

For example, if we want to lose weight and [not everyone has the willpower] needs the environment to support it. So, basically gym within reach and their surroundings that also supports a healthy lifestyle.

I think about circumstances and how they affect our behavior a lot. The text that I linked grazed that topic, too: https://peakd.com/hive-168869/@beelzael/everyone-is-too-much

Not everyone grew up with the mindset that is necessary to even be aware of what is going on. Nor with the possibility to even want to be aware. That, too, is influenced heavily by the environment. And trauma.

I do believe that most of the time, where there's a will, there's a way - but the will must be stronger than the obstacles given against it. The gym being far means the distance is an obstacle, and it needs enough willpower to overcome that. Plus the people around. A friend has a pilates studio here, and one of her students told her that her friends where making fun of her for doing so much exercise. That elderly woman is incredibly fit, while her friends start drinking in the morning and are definitely not fit. And yet, they bully the healthy one.

It takes strength of character not to be influenced by that. And certainty that one is doing the right thing.

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