Because not everything real is explained, for example: Having a partner is not incompatible with connecting with inner peace. And that's when something curious happens with our reality, and that is that it ceases to be a problem to solve and becomes a mystery to honor like peace in a couple, the same one that is built day by day, talking about what hurts, what we need, what we dream, the solutions we propose, what we make mistakes, what we get right, what we challenge, and what encourages us.
And if the words do not reach us, we are left with hugs, kisses, caresses, presence. That is why we must choose flexible and conscientious people willing to do the necessary work.
If possible, question your partner so that he grows up in uncomfortable conversations, but do not allow your family to disrespect him.
Definitely, one has a partner to be happy, because the couple adds joy to live with purpose and meaning, it does not subtract.
Now, if we have a couple that fucks up, and subtracts from the relationship all the time, then it makes sense to keep having it, because the love of a couple is built and demonstrated with deeds, not with words. In these cases it is better to learn to live only with oneself than to become attached and make our mood dependent on the partner who upsets us for the worse our life.
Having a good partner is sometimes uphill, and involves a lot of responsibility to make it work for the well-being of the bond. Let's be strong and set healthy boundaries in our relationships.
Let's establish our bonds based on commitment, loyalty and love, from reciprocity, from both sides to improve, accept mistakes and changes staying with those who value us and turning our backs on anyone who rejects us.
Beyond self-love, it is good to look at those mistakes and own flaws that make the relationship deteriorate and if along the.like there are non-negotiable things that make the couple's relationship difficult, it's better to make decisions without being submissive, without staying in the complaint, but going out to surf that wave to get where we want.
Besides, not all the time things turn out well and there is hope, and sometimes that's okay too.
Giving up and letting go of what hurts us doesn't make us selfish, it makes us conscious. Because every minute we spend in toxic environments is a minute stolen from our peace, our personal growth, our potential.
Protecting our energy from what does not benefit us is not optional if we really want to evolve, it is essential. Even if it hurts. Even if it's uncomfortable. Even if we have to start over. Because the life we want doesn't fit in the environments that keep us trapped.
Janitze 🌹
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL