It needs fire. But, many times, in a world that is going so fast and that wants everything for now, that is forgotten.We often confuse "fluency" with "disinterest". And no, it's not like that.
Fundamentally, because there are loves that need space, respect, air, among other things they require time. Not because they don't want to settle down, but because they know that the important thing about love is to stay free, without unnecessary pressures.
In addition, I can tell you with certainty that good loves do not force or pressure you, on the contrary, they free us.
Of course, there is an undeniable truth: There is no love more powerful than the one we give to ourselves.
It all starts with you.
Before looking for love in others, make sure to honor, respect and value yourself deeply. If you don't love yourself, no one will be able to do it for you the way you deserve.
It is not enough to expect the love of others if you have not committed yourself first to loving and caring for yourself. Building a solid self-esteem is essential, and that inner work is what will allow you to live from authenticity.
What kills love, and anything else, is routine. Routine kills almost everything. And I say almost because it has an important utility for practical activities.
For example, doing exercises, and if something is part of your routine you no longer have to think about it, like brushing your teeth every day, but, at the same time it hides a huge danger ... it makes us miss the details of life. And this, if it can hurt our relationships. Losing the details, stopping looking at the other and getting bored happens on a day-to-day basis. The moment you stop paying attention and do everything the same you sentence things to die slowly.
I'm not just talking about a couple, apply for jobs, friends…
Fidelity, loyalty and honesty do not come from the love you feel for another person, but from self-love.
They are an act of internal discipline, which becomes routine, as well, of honoring your word and staying true to your values even when no one is looking at you. It's our integrity speaking louder than our impulses. Because in the end, being loyal doesn't show how much you love someone, but how deeply you respect yourself.
Maturity is not in a hurry either and involves seeing our shadows and lights, as well as the lights and shadows of others, which is not as romantic or as pleasant as we think, it implies knowing how to go through pain. It is not the lack of love, but the lack of friendship that makes couples unhappy.
What do you think?
Meanwhile, at my house, every evening in my garden the sun gets trapped in a lamp, while the hummingbird celebrates its evening dance.
Janitze 🌹
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL