Trust is a risky business. It can kill people and imprison them and leave them trapped in things that they don't want to be in. And trusting the right people can bring out the best in you.
People you give yourself fully to in the fullness of your own nativity. You open yourself, let them into parts of yourself that are ideally not for everyone and share with them what you don't normally share. And sometimes it works out, but sometimes it doesn't and the disappointment is for you to endure.
The hard part is that you don't always know in advance what's going to happen and who the person you're trusting is going to turn into. People stand up and present themselves well. They are nice, they are steady, they are there almost always. And then something changes and you are left standing there, wondering what you really knew.l about the person you were once willing to bet your last penny on to be reliable.
It's not about being suspicious of everyone. That can't be how you live. But there is a cost to bad trust. It changes you in ways that are difficult for me to even explain to you. You become more careful, more selective. You begin to guard against things you didn't before. And that can also push good people away from you.
And no calculation or prediction is ever is ever perfect. You need to trust people to get anything done, to have anything off the ground, to have a life worth living So you trust them, but blind loyalty is your true enemy.