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The search for love feels can sometimes be like a perpetual pursuit. For my longtime friend who once thought he'd found love which later end in big heartbeat 💘 he never saw it coming. He believed he had found a perfect match, someone who truly understood him and what started as a hopeful matchmaking experience quickly turned into the kind of betrayal that that left deep scars.
Matchmaking sometimes work for some people and doesn't work for others but if you ask me or seek advice from me, then I would definitely advice against matchmaking maybe because of what have heard or the experience regarding my friend but if at all you still want to try matchmaking, then advice you let be mutual and avoid third-party if possible.
The story of my friend started a few years ago. He has a senior brother who is already married but somehow met a lady online and have affection for themselves but as their conversation keep getting deeper, his brother has to come clean and told this lady about marital status, but despite that lady still keep in touch.
Later on, my friend's brother felt it's not safe for her to continue to keep in touch with the lady to avoid having issue with his marriage. So instead of letting the lady go, he thought of matchmaking the lady to her brother which is my friend since he is not married yet nor have girlfriend and introduce them to each other which they both accepted.
At first, their conversations were lighthearted, but at time goes on, they grew closer. They discussed about their dreams, their fears, and the kind of life they wanted to build together. She seemed perfect, a woman who shared his his goals, values and had a warmth that made him feel special and that's how it all started.
My friend feel like he had found a rare connection and took a step forward making the decision to meet her in person. Their first dat was everything he had hoped for and more as they intantly clicked. This lady was kind, beautiful, jovial and incredibly easy person to talk to. Their relationship got deepened as the months passed and my friend began to believe that he had finally found his soulmate. He was so sure about the lady that he didn't waver when she brought up the suggestion that they take their relationship to the level which later leads to marriage which I personally as a friend attended and fortunately they were blessed with a baby girl.
But later on, the perfect picture started to get show cracks. My friend started to notice subtle changes— different excuses about late nights at work that didn’t quite add up, texts and calls that were mysteriously erased, and a sudden distance in the way she communicated with him. At first, he brushed it off thinking maybe she was just busy, or maybe he was being paranoid but something doesn't just feel right.
The breaking point came when my friend have the courage to clear his doubt and confront her about his suspicious but he couldn't not believe what comes after. It turned the do person he called his wife has been seeing someone else behind him for months. She had been living a double life and secretly betraying him while pretending to be the loving partner he thought he knew. Considering how deeply my friend had invested in the relationship, it was big cruel blow for him.
For my friend, the pain and heartbroken wasn't just only about the betrayal but rather it was the realization that he had trusted the wrong person completely while believing they were his soulmate only to have that trust broken in the most hurtful which left hiy questioning everything he thouy he kni about trust love and people he allowed into his life.
This experience taught my friend a painful lesson regarding the complexities of relationships and the importance of truly knowiy someone before fully committing even though that doesn't guarantee a long lasting relationship. The people we think are meant to be our forever can sometimes be the ones who hurt us the most. Matchmaking, either in person or online can bring us closer in finding love but it can also blind us to the red flags we might fail to spot in our quest for happiness.
The fact that he was able to share this hurtful experience with me means that he is healing gradually with time and learning to trust again. Though healing is a slow process but he's determined not to let one person's betrayal define his future. Even though love might have betrayed him once but he still believes in the likelihood of finding it again
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