The word "yes" is always associated with being kind, productive and ambitious. We answer "yes" when offered more chores in the workplace, more social occasions that we would rather not attend, and many other tasks, which drain us of our little left energy. But according to psychological research, all our "yeses" are in fact subconscious "nos" to ourselves.
Every time when you are stretching yourself thin just to make other people happy, you pay a heavy inner price. You sacrifice your time, your concentration, your goals and your energy just to escape from one second of social discomfort.
But setting boundaries is not selfish; it is a matter of survival:
Guilt Is Temporary: Feeling guilty about saying "no" lasts for seconds, while being angry with yourself because of your forced "yes" may take weeks.
Quality Over Quantity: By protecting your time, you can devote yourself fully to those things that really matter.
The true peace comes when you stop killing yourself trying to warm up others. Be picky in your choices.