RE: Sipping from the chalice of victory

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RE: Sipping from the chalice of victory

galenkp in Galenkp's Stuff • 8 months ago

You said that below...

I noticed that I find that (very) difficult when I look at what I am achieving myself. I am a perfectionist

Perfection doesn't exist for humans and seeking something that doesn't exist will only ever lead to disappointment, being self-critical and other such things that can lead to bad places emotionally and mentally. A better thing to aim at is continual improvement because it's very achievable, even in small increments, and that gives a person something to celebrate...and motivation to push on.

Just my opinion.

8 months ago in Galenkp's Stuff by galenkp

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rainbowdash4l 8 months ago

100% agree, being a (diagnosed cluster c) perfectionist (in most cases) is not a rational choice but mostly a consequence of an abusive childhood were the general message was that the kid not good enough until the point where the kid starts to believe that and starts holding higher standards to compare themselves against - and even then downplaying themselves to confirm the basic conviction that they hold upon themselves.

Making a change is a rational choice as constantly failing to meet an unrealistic standard let to depression, addiction and self harm. Did a succesfull program in 2022 But old paterns are difficult to change! Will do a (intensive) year long program starting October to be able to look more kindly towards myself. Getting help is atleast one of the successes that I am proud of. And we will get there…

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galenkp 8 months ago

Well done for looking for improvement and actively getting involved with a program to help make it a reality. Hopefully it goes well.

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