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RE: Sipping from the chalice of victory

in Galenkp's Stuff8 months ago

Wow that chalice is amazing - that would make a killer combo (in terms of atmosphere and decor) with the Highland Park Valhalla Collection.

On celebrating success:

  • I noticed that I find that (very) difficult when I look at what I am achieving myself. I am a perfectionist and very competitive - therefore there is always a reason/excuse (for myself) to be critical on myself and the achievements rather than just own it and be content about it. Celebrating succes is something I hope to learn to allow myself - and will probably be part of program I am starting early October.
    An example was the april 2025 marathon, where stuffy weather and salt deficiency caused me to have very bad cramps, despite that I finished the race in a strong time. I was not content with the time, so I did another marathon 11 days later in order to succesfully break my PR.

that being said;

  • as a father, I can do this very well. I can be very proud of my kids when they overcome challenges - especially when it comes from challenges related to the cards that they have been dealt in life.
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I noticed that I find that (very) difficult when I look at what I am achieving myself. I am a perfectionist

Perfection doesn't exist for humans and seeking something that doesn't exist will only ever lead to disappointment, being self-critical and other such things that can lead to bad places emotionally and mentally. A better thing to aim at is continual improvement because it's very achievable, even in small increments, and that gives a person something to celebrate...and motivation to push on.

Just my opinion.

100% agree, being a (diagnosed cluster c) perfectionist (in most cases) is not a rational choice but mostly a consequence of an abusive childhood were the general message was that the kid not good enough until the point where the kid starts to believe that and starts holding higher standards to compare themselves against - and even then downplaying themselves to confirm the basic conviction that they hold upon themselves.

Making a change is a rational choice as constantly failing to meet an unrealistic standard let to depression, addiction and self harm. Did a succesfull program in 2022 But old paterns are difficult to change! Will do a (intensive) year long program starting October to be able to look more kindly towards myself. Getting help is atleast one of the successes that I am proud of. And we will get there…

Well done for looking for improvement and actively getting involved with a program to help make it a reality. Hopefully it goes well.